Why Couples Would Rather Fight Than Get Along

7 reasons why you may be fighting with your partner, and how to stop.

We all want to be happy, in life and relationships. So why do so many couples fight over the silliest things?

Here are seven reasons why.

The need to be right.

Some people just have this need to be right, and when they’re not, they fight. Instead of admitting they are wrong, they argue. It’s a hard habit to break, the feeling of always having to be right. Some people get their self-esteem from being right, so even when in the middle of an argument they realize they’re wrong they still argue. The purpose at that point is only to try and convince the other person they are right.

In order to stop this behavior, or way of thinking, you have to understand that everyone has an opinion. Accept that you will not agree with everyone’s opinion, and not everyone will agree with you. Instead of starting an argument, say something like, “I understand what you are saying.” Or “That’s a perspective I hadn’t thought about.”

Power

Some people fight for power. Power over other people or situations. By arguing only to get your partner to back down or give in, you are ruining your emotional intimacy. This is not a healthy relationship.